Gratitude as gratitude for the spiral


By Alexis Rae Baker

Dear Lexis,

I feel like my life is spiraling out of control. Nothing seems to be going well and there seems to be nothing I can do about it. Health problems, car problems, and money problems all seem to pile up, and new ones seem to pop up on a regular basis. I know you said we should just believe the fall will eventually end, but I feel like I’ve been falling for years, and there’s no end in sight. Can I do anything to regain control?


Spiral at Olympia

Dear Spiraling,

I’m sorry to hear that life has been so difficult for you lately. I don’t know why these long periods of suffering sometimes occur, but I know your situation very well. It can be very hard to believe that things are working when new problems keep popping up. And while I can promise that the rain will eventually stop, I do know a technique that can help you get through those tough times.

I call it Dream Life Practice. I know the name sounds a bit fruity, but it’s actually more literal than fantastic, so hang in there for a moment. I learned this technique from Joe Dispenza, and it has dramatically improved my daily life many times over. Essentially what you are doing is integrating the concepts of meditation into your daily life. Hence the reference to the dream and to life.

And while meditation can dramatically improve your ability to fully utilize this practice, it isn’t necessary.

Step 1: Think about what you want.

A common practice for those interested in spirituality, this step is mainly about writing down exactly what you want. Go into detail if you wish, but don’t include a completion date.

This lack of a goal date is unique to Joe Dispenza, but he insists that it’s important not to state a specific date or time for that goal to be achieved. Given the evidence behind his work, I would recommend going.

2nd step: Think about how the desired outcome would make you feel.

Try to feel the emotions you would feel if you had what you wanted. You will know if you are doing this step correctly if there is a smile on your face. No matter the emotion: love, hope, joy, delight, ease, security.

If you can’t figure out how you would feel, use gratitude because gratitude is one of the emotions that shape the future (i.e., gratitude that tricks your brain into thinking what you’re going through is in the present even if this is not the case).

Step 3: Hold on to that feeling and repeat as needed.

The first two steps are about getting your heart and head into a state of coherence (which, coincidentally, can dramatically improve your physical health), and this step is about maintenance.

Keep that positive emotion for as long as you can, and keep practicing as things go wrong.

And while I can’t promise you’ll get the specific desired result (although Joe says you’ll get it if you keep practicing until it appears), I can promise you this practice will make you feel so much better, despite the circumstances around you.

Of course, it doesn’t change today’s struggles, but it does give you an unflinching new perspective that will likely help you deal with issues as they arise.

It might seem a bit frivolous to work on improving your mood considering the struggle, but even if it just keeps you from making fun of your loved ones, I’d say it’s worth the effort.

Overall though, it is likely that this practice will result in drastic improvements in your life, both emotionally and circumstantially. By improving your mood, you improve your vision, improving your problem-solving abilities. Keep going, and there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.

Hope this helps and wish you good luck.


Joe Dispenza website: Click here.

Lexis is Alexis Rae Baker. She writes from her home in Olympia. Have a question about life, relationships, spirit? Visit her at or email Lexis at [email protected]


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